The fastest way to change is to link your current behavior to corrective action. In many cases, this can mean doing the opposite of what you’re doing now. Avoid wasting time criticizing what you’ve done wrong. This only adds emotional trauma to an already confused mental and physical state.
Instead, point yourself toward the correct behavior. To be an effective manager of yourself and others replace “Why did you spill the milk?” with “How do we clean it up?” You’re probably a more effective manager than the coach who gave me my first sailing lesson. While our small boat was heeling over and taking on water, he chose that moment to ask, “Why are you doing that?” I thought that was a really dumb question to ask during an emergency.
I realized that if I took the time to do the psychoanalysis necessary to answer that question, we might all drown. With my mind racing, I decided to take corrective action: I pushed the rudder in the opposite direction and released the main sheet. This immediately righted the boat and taught me that analyzing why I’m doing something wrong or criticizing myself during an emergency is not as effective as doing the opposite of what’s not working.
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Given the ineffectiveness of my sailing coach, I had to become an effective self-manager and instruct my brain to shift to corrective action rather than the distracting and confusing questions “Why are you doing that?” and “What’s wrong with you?”
Give yourself corrective actions directing your attention to what you can do now. You’ll be problem-solving and feeling effective within 5 seconds. Now that’s effective time management!